But Won’t They Know We Are Christians By Our Love?

Ok, so loving my enemies, doesn’t mean that I shower my foes with cupcakes and butterfly kisses. Instead, it means that godly righteousness manifests God’s attributes, one of which is mercy. But still, doesn’t the Bible say that “they will know that we are Christians by our love”? I mean, the dominant theme in Christianity today is our “responsibility” to engage the social issues of our culture. It’s how we prove we care and validate the Gospel, right?

Not exactly. Jesus’ exact statement is, “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” (John 13:35). Note that the point is not to prove we care, but to demonstrate that we are His disciples. In Jesus’ time, a disciple was a student who lived in close proximity to his teacher in order to become like him. So, Jesus is explaining how we look like Him – the issue we have been exploring since Psalm 139.

Furthermore, the love that looks like Christ is not love for all mankind, but “love for one another”. Only Jesus’ disciples were present when He spoke these words, so the love in view is love among believers.

His message, which runs through chapter 17, was that He was leaving and they were to represent Him by loving one another. The disciples focused on the “I’m leaving” part, so Jesus spends chapter 14 explaining why He had to go away, then returns to the theme of representing Him by loving one another in 15-17.

  • By abiding in Him, they prove to be His disciples (look like Him), and glorify God (15:1-11)
  • Central to abiding in Him is “loving one another” (John 15:12-17).
  • Such alignment with Him will cause them to be hated by the world (15:18-27).
  • This shouldn’t upset them because it is part of the plan (16:1-4), and He is sending the Spirit to help them in these difficulties (16:5-33).
  • He asks God to keep and protect them while they are in the world, but distinct from it (chapter 17).

Note that Jesus warns that when we look like Him, we can expect the world to hate us. This doesn’t leave much hope for “making the world like us”.

Instead, we are to prove that God sent Jesus into the world. How? The strategy is summed up 17:20-21, “I do not ask on behalf of these alone, but for those also who believe in Me through their word; that they may all be one; even as You, Father, are in Me and I in You, that they also may be in Us, so that the world may believe that You sent Me.

Note the elements –

  • that they may all be one; even as You, Father, are in Me and I in You” – Jesus prays for divine unity among believers. Such unity is the product of believers loving one another as Christ loved them.
  • that they also may be in Us” – This love for one another flows out of believers abiding in Father and Son. Since Christ is in perfect unity with the Father, as we abide in Him, we abide in the Father. And, just as Jesus’ unity with the Father allowed Him to represent God on earth, so our abiding in Them allows us to represent Them on earth, by loving one another.
  • that the world may believe that the Father sent the Son” – The unity that flows out of our love for one another provides the evidence that Christ came from the Father.

Unfortunately, we have allowed Jesus’ original words to be distorted and misunderstood, and exchanged God’s agenda for our own. In the process, we have mistaken tolerance for unity, and sought to mitigate the fact that, if we look like Christ, the world will hate us.

How does God feel about these shifts. To be honest, I think it is probably one of the things He hates.

Am I saying that we should not love unbelievers? No. But I suspect that “how” and “when” may look different than we expect. The point here is that the defining characteristic of Christians is not love for mankind, but love and unity among believers.

Still, several questions in this vein remain –

But we’ll save these for the weeks ahead.